I had a texting conversation with someone this morning who is being rejected by several family members right now. She asked me to pray for her that God would show her what she needed to learn about herself out of this difficult situation.
After I texted her back my long answer, we both felt that this counsel/encouragement may also be able to help others who are being rejected at this time. She gave me permission to share my answer to her with you.
Here was my response: Hope it helps to set your eyes on Jesus instead of your current circumstance.
To my friend: Yes, I will certainly pray for you and I’m glad you told me about this so I could be praying. You did not do anything wrong. From what you’ve explained to me it sounds like your family members are just reacting out of their own fears and insecurities.
You will find as you become more and more solid in who you are in Christ that when these scenarios of rejection from others arise, you will be able to just let them roll off of you because no matter who rejects you, you will have a deep revelation of how completely and perfectly accepted you are in Christ.
In fact, you will find, as you continue receiving God’s love for youself, that compassion will even rise up in you toward other people who reject you. It’s a journey and we’re changed from glory to glory so don’t try to force it to happen because God’s grace will do the work of change in you if you just keep meditating on His grace which is His unmerited favor (Grace = all the good things you get from God that you don’t deserve).
In fact I am excited for you, watching the way you’re handling this in asking for prayer. Maybe you wouldn’t have done that months ago, but would have just tried to handle this painful situation on your own by your own efforts. This is great… you’re trusting God more now.
You’re turning to Jesus more quickly now. This change is taking place in you because you have been meditating on the right things in times when you don’t have a crisis going on. Things like how much God loves you and how you stand forever forgiven and how you are, right now, this very minute, righteous in Christ and how you’re accepted as a daughter of God and how, even when you do sin, there is no condemnation in Christ.
These are just a few of your new, more consistent right beliefs that are rolling around in your mind all throughout the day. I know because of our recent conversations. It is in placing your faith, not in yourself, but in God’s grace (His unmerited favor), that God’s power is produced in you to help you rise above rejection. Isn’t God awesome!
I am so sorry that you’re having to go through this, but I am confident that God will work it out for your good. From a personal standpoint, I also have gone through various periods of rejection in my life (as I know everyone has) and before I understood grace all I felt was rejected, but after I understood grace God helped me realize through these times of being rejected by other people that I already have all the acceptance I need in my relationship with Him. Understanding this has given me a deep abiding peace in my life and it’s available to anyone who will put their faith in God’s grace!
Update, Update! Since writing this post just 30 minutes ago I have already received an update from my friend who had made a decision to put this situation in God’s hands and remain at rest. One of her family members has already contacted her and has come back around to a place of understanding on her own, without my friend having to convince her or defend herself.
I love it! The minute we decide to rest, God goes to work on our behalf!
If you have not yet made Jesus your Savior and received the wonderful joy that His finished work on the cross has provided for you to live in, please visit my page here titled Jesus In The Driver’s Seat. On this page I explain the good news of the gospel and you will have the opportunity to pray a prayer of salvation, making Jesus your Savior! Jesus loves you and His arms are wide open!